The sunlight is reflecting off of the metallic Chanukah
decorations hanging from my windows, creating jewel-toned prisms on my walls.
Every dreidel we’ve ever owned is
piled into the ceramic dreidel bowl,
waiting to be spun. The electric menorah,
which I hate, sits in the window ready to be lit, where it will compete with
the blue and white Jewish star lights our neighbor down the street has already
lit. Chanukah snow globes and music boxes and candles—who decided we needed
decorative candles for this holiday and why do I have them—are placed on
display strategically around the house. Decorative plates are stacked, waiting
for the homemade gelt, latkes and fried Oreos to be made. The only thing left
to do is to put out our personal menorahs
and candles when Chanukah actually arrives.
There is a fine line between decorating for this holiday and
making my house look like the Chanukah fairy threw up in it. No, there’s no
Chanukah fairy. Chanukah’s miracle is the oil that lasted eight days, rather
than one. It’s the victory of the Maccabeas over the Greeks. And for me, it’s
the fact that no matter how much people have inflated the holiday in an attempt
to compete with Christmas, it still remains a non-commercialized fairly minor
holiday.
That’s not to say I won’t insist on celebrating it with my
family. This year, it falls over winter break and we’ve already had the
discussion about whether or not the Princess can go out with her friends at
night during Chanukah. My response? Of course, as long as you’re home to light
the candles first. Because there’s a difference between a minor holiday and an
unimportant holiday. And if we let the celebration slide, the miracles
disappear.
I think we’ve taught that lesson well. It was the Princess
who asked me last week when we were going to decorate for Chanukah. Sure, the
“we” really meant “Mom,” but even she wants the decorations up. The wish lists
were made, but it’s the traditions we’ve established that the kids talk about:
making latkes from scratch, making fried Oreos, decorating, inviting friends
over to celebrate with us—this year, the Princess even wants to invite her
non-Jewish friends.
So I’m going to add to that list of Chanukah miracles. I’m
going to add my children’s desire to celebrate the holiday, when so many other
things have fallen by the wayside. That even though there aren’t a lot of gifts
being opened, they’ve separated out the gift-giving from the
holiday-celebrating, and they still want to participate. They’re growing up,
but not out-growing, this holiday. And that’s what I will be thankful for these
upcoming eight days of Chanukah.
Happy Hanukkah!
ReplyDeleteWe light the candles together every night as well (*sob* now that they don't live at home, it's not an every night together thing anymore :( ). I gave them both electric menorahs to have in their rooms when they lived in the dorms, and once they moved out they each got their own menorahs. I love putting out the decorations they've made each year.
I've always done a latke night for the kids and their friends (most of whom aren't Jewish). Traditional brisket, latkes & sufganyot. The kids love to expose their friends to it, and the friends look forward to it every year. When they were younger, we would read the story of Hanukkah to them as well, but now these 20-somethings just want to eat, lol. I'm just happy they all still want to do this.
Yeah, I'm happy they want to participate in some way as well. I don't have to worry about college for one more year, we'll see what happens. Love what you do as well!
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